Thursday, March 22, 2012

Names and Labels

I was accused recently of being a follower.

It was an interesting conversation, to say the least.

But it made me think...

Can you be a follower if you don't have anyone to follow? Isn't that the very meaning of 'follower' - to follow? In order to be a follower, don't I require a Leader to show me the way?

Isn't being a follower mean that I get affirmation from someone else for doing what they are doing?

Or is just having an ideal being a follower? I know that you can be a follower of certain beliefs, I myself am a Follower of Christ, again because it feels 'right' for me. Again though, don't most people need to be with others that believe the same as them?

Apparently, my delayed vaccinations, homeschooling, attachment parenting choices are NOT me wanting to do the best for my kids, but merely following those around me.

I would like to point out a few things here...

When I chose to home birth, I had no one around me who had even thought of it, let alone done it. I had no one to ask, no one who I could just pop around for a cuppa and chat. It was all on me and my research. I had reached out to a few online friends, but online friends do not replace real life friendships (or leaders).

The same goes for all the other choices I have made for my kids. I am doing what I feel is right for our family.  With little to no support IRL.

In fact, if anything, I have had people mock and condemn me for my choices. The easier option would simply have been to cave and follow the Socially Popular Opinion, to not think for myself and simply do what everyone else around us does. Seriously, life would have been 1000 times easier to chose that option.

But... wouldn't THAT have made me a follower?? Much more than the choices I have made now? Why is choosing my own path and forging my own way more of a follower than actually following everyone else? In fact, I am also at odds with most of the people I come across in this search for truth, as my truth is MY truth and not theirs. Makes for interesting times when you don't 'fit' anywhere!

Look, at the end of the day, we are all striving to do the best we can, with what we have and know. Some people are comfortable doing what others do, other people research and choose to stick to the accepted way, others pick other ways and still others, like me, go against what we know, research and decide to go a different way.

At the end of the day, as long as our children are honored, loved, cared for and protected, does it really matter if I'm doing it different from you?

As I recently said on a Facebook page - 

Just because something doesn't affirmate YOUR choices,
does NOT mean your choices are wrong.
They are simply wrong for that OTHER person.